I was so thankful for the opportunity we had to go to the cemetery this past month to visit Jackson's grave. We hadn't been there since Thanksgiving, when we left a little Christmas wreath for him. When we arrived there this time, there was another little wreath with it and they were secured to a stick with a gold ribbon on it and tied into the ground. I am assuming that Lincoln's aunts did that...it was such a nice gesture and was much appreciated. It was nice to feel like someone was watching out for our little boy and remembering him! Although I often wish he was buried closer to where we live, I am glad we made the choice that we did. The first time I really felt the weight of Jackson's death was when we were trying to decide where to bury him. I was so upset that I would have to make that decision when my body and mind were still recovering from his birth...I didn't feel like I could make the right decision. Lincoln stepped up and took care of the details with the mortuary and the burial. Then we sat down and listed all of the pros and cons of burying him in Mesa or Snowflake. I feel very comfortable with the choice that we made. I love the Snowflake Cemetery because most times when I go I (or Lincoln & I) are the only ones there. It is so open and beautiful and it has a more personal feeling to it. They don't have as many rules or guidelines as far as the headstones go. I like seeing headstones that reflect each person and who they were on this earth, and the way they touched others' lives. I can't wait to pick out Jackson's!!!
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What a touching tribute to your son this blog is. I stumbled upon it from my own blog and just had to offer some words...it's just so beautiful.
Hi, I'm a cousin of your husband on the Brinton side, I'm one of Van and Vida's great grandchildren, my grandparents were Dil and Pearl. I've been following this blog for about a year now, I'm really sorry for your loss. We've lost several pregnancies, and while there is no comparison, I do grieve for you. I have a question, and if it's too personal or something that you don't wish to addres, please feel free to tell me to take a hike, but I was wondering were they ever able to determine why your son was stillborn? Thanks for this blog, it is so nice to read about your hope and faith, it has helped me many times. :)
Thanks for a good cry today...I think it's so wonderful that you share your thoughts like this. This post especially brought home to me how real this was for you, and how jarring and awful it must have been. I didn't know you before it happened, but I'm guessing your compassionate nature really grew from this experience.
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