Monday, February 9, 2009

Time Does Heal

Yesterday Lincoln & I were talking about how Jackson would be a year younger than the new Sunbeams in our Primary. We can't believe that if he was alive, he would be going into Primary next year! Crazy, I know! It still baffles me that things changed so much for me when Jackson's 2nd bday came. I don't know why...but I feel SO much more comfortable with him being gone now. I love this new place that I'm at in my grief. Time really does help to heal a wounded heart. I'm so thankful for my son. He is constantly teaching me, even though he isn't here. I feel now more than ever that he is a vital part of our family & that he is where he is supposed to be.

10 comments:

Brittanie said...

I remember having that moment, when I realized that when I thought of my Cora, it wasn't a knifing grief anymore, but I could smile when I thought about her. Not only is it time that heals, but the power of the Savior too, and I'm so grateful for that. I'm glad you have reached a more peaceful place.

(hugs)

BAM & CJ said...

Anjane',
It's great to hear your posts about Jackson. I think about him a lot and talk about him to my girls. It's great to hear you're at a point in your life where time is healing your wounded heart.

Scott and Amy said...

I'm proud of you girl:) I found your blog off of later day baby site. I gave a talk the other day in RS, usually i'm in primary. Any ways they asked me to talk about how being cealed to my son has helped with losing him. When I lost my baby I was praying for a miracle, and so was everyone we knew. When I gave that talk it accured to me that I did get one.

Our babies who came to us for such short times are our miricale children. I never looked at it that way untill the other week when I gave that talk.

This is totally random I know but I love that your happy with where your at and that your peaceful. Sometimes I like to hear how others do things, so I hope you don't mind I shared that. oh your awesome and you have an amazing little guy that is always with you in spirit!! I think your awesome

Love,
Amy, Josephs mommy.

Amy said...

I'm glad you can be more at peace. I found your site through the Angel Babies site. I lost our baby recently at 37 weeks due to a cord accident. You are an example to me. Thank you!

Amy
amy.chinagal@gmail.com

April said...

I am so grateful for your post. It gives me so much comfort more than you'll know. It seems like the past few weeks have been harder, maybe because my due date is almost here. I had my baby Harrison Oct 28 last year at 21 weeks. I miss him everyday. THanks so much for your post. I am glad you are at peace.

Michelle said...

I am so glad to read this post, Anjane'. My sister (who went to HS with Lincoln) pointed me to Jackson's blog soon after I lost my precious Benjamin in Nov 2007. Having you a few months ahead of me in the grieving process has really helped me. It is reassuring to know that there will come a day when I can feel, too, that I'm in a peaceful place with my grief.
Love and {hugs},
Michelle

Rylie said...

It is such a comfort to know that time does eventually heal our wounds. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us. Great will be the day when we can hold our little angels again.

Barlow Family said...

I don't even know you but somehow I came across your blog and read some of the sweet things about your baby, Jackson. I just wanted to say that your words have touched me (as I sit here and cry). I'm sorry for your loss.

Delekatala said...

What an encouraging post. I hope to someday soon find that peace. Jackson is beautiful. Jenny

Marc and Megan said...

I stumbled on your blog tonight and wanted to let yout know how comforting it is to read your words. We have also had a long road to parenthood, including losing our twin daughters almost a year ago. I just hope you know that you're not alone in your struggle or in your hope for a family. Thank you for sharing your experiences and feelings - they've helped me tonight.

- Megan
(mom to Elliana & Emmaline)